Best way to settle dispute is a good sex - Pastor Duncan Potter on Domestic Abuse
“The best way to settle a dispute is a good sex" and that giving birth out of wedlock is a mistake rather than a sin were some of the striking statements of the pastor while on the show.
Pastor Duncan, who related that he was a former engineering student, said he earns less money than his spouse but is the better manager of money in the home and as a result had the ultimately responsibility of managing the family’s money. He was sure to qualify though, that he was the smaller earner only when ‘secular work’ was taken into context as he explained that he earned wages from other areas.
“In the matter of money,” pastor Duncan related, “I’m in charge, but the male (in any marriage or union) is ultimately responsible for the finances of the family.”
According to the 50-year-old, he has now been married for 20 years and though the union is so far childless, he still hopes to one day have six children by way of his wife.
He explained that he had started on this goal from the night he was married noting that he enjoyed copious amounts of copulation on the first night but for some reason may not have achieved his intended target. “She had the ooziness after the first night…” pastor Duncan said of his wife, “but some ladies have difficulty keeping the pregnancy going.”
Six children, he said, was the number that God gave him, “from the time I was young, before I met my wife, before I had my first girlfriend, I told her I want six kids… six is the number that God put in my head.”
“I said to myself, God, you have a weird sense of humour,” pastor Duncan related, “to give the cat six kids and I want six kids… and you didn’t give me the kids.” Pastor Duncan said the issue of adoption was discussed between himself and his wife but it was not an option the couple had ever actively pursued.
God frowns on homosexuality
“Basically God frowns on that lifestyle and Sodom and Gomorrah was founded on that lifestyle,” he added while indicating that he did not believe in homosexuality.
When asked by pastor Skelton-Cline whether he thought the Virgin Islands was a modern day version of Sodom and Gomorrah, Pastor Duncan replied that it was a tough question.
“We have [a] magnitude of sin in Tortola, we have sin that goes on that is unseemly to God… I wouldn’t compare [Tortola] to a Sodom and Gomorrah because where there is homosexual lifestyle in Tortola, it is not as rampant as in San Francisco and some other places,” pastor Duncan explained.
Pastor Duncan was next asked, “Do you sin?” His first reply might have seemed evasive to some when he said, “I do make mistakes… but I’m a Christian, I’m a child of God… I’m blood-washed.” Prodded further for a direct answer, pastor Duncan said, “Let me be blunt with you sir, I don’t practise sin.”
“There is a difference between a practising sinner and a sinner,” pastor Duncan said. After insisting for some time that he has made mistakes without actually admitting to having committed sins, he eventually conceded that he does indeed sin.
Pastor Duncan also qualified a person having a child out of wedlock as a mistake and said it was something that God preferred us not to do. “A mistake is something that we may have done but it causes a displeasement in our life after we made the mistake,” he added.
Views on domestic violence
“The best way to settle a dispute is a good sex,” pastor Duncan declared emphatically before adding supporting scripture for his belief.
“If [a couple has] tension in a marriage,” he added, “it breaks down barriers.” He explained that the power of sex was so strong, that outside of marriage, “if two adult cousins come together and they strip themselves, they may speak two different languages completely… but the power of sex is so strong… they would have sex because it is a bonding force…”
According to Pastor Duncan, sex outside of marriage leaves guilt on your mind; “when you practice a sexual sin it leaves a shame, it leaves a condemnation on you, it leaves that guilt on you,” he reasoned.
Regarding young persons who are datingand are having a ‘strong dispute’, he noted, “that calls for strong discussion… I would advise strongly that they pray before they come together,” the pastor said. He strongly recommended that youths of the opposite sex should not study together in the bedroom as it could lead to sex.
He recommended that couples involved in an abusive relationship seek help, “they should seek counselling… strong biblical guidance,” he said. He also recommended the presence of a third person in the form of a mediator.
He recommended that an abused woman who was married should seek prayer, “They should pray, they should seek guidance [and] they should seek counsel.” He suggested that separate prayers were warranted before the couple comes together.
According to pastor Duncan, some women take the risk of ongoing physical abuse to protect their spouse. “Married people tend to look out for each other, even when they’re hurting each other,” he said while noting that some abused women tend to lie about being abused. He conceded that it may be that they do not admit to being abused out of fear or guilt at times but stressed that it was also about protecting the abusive spouse.
He suggested that abused women seek to create distance between themselves and their abusers when “the physical abuse gets to the point where it begins to physically wear on the other person.” Pastor Duncan suggested that the threshold for ‘physically wearing’ be determined by the person who was being abused.
“[Abuse] is the work of the devil,” he contended, “the devil is using you against your spouse [in physical abuse].”
Before signing off of the programme, pastor Duncan was sure to inform the audience that he did not sin on that day, he noted that he had not done so either through “omission or commission”.
56 Responses to “Best way to settle dispute is a good sex - Pastor Duncan Potter on Domestic Abuse ”
It's a mistake to join any of these groups that peddle false hopes, no different than a dealer peddles dope for the hope of a better feeling!! The only difference with this man is that he is being brutally honest without any fear. This is the mentality that a lot of Christians have but would always tone it down for fear of being labelled as crazy or out of touch. Settle domestic disputes with sex? Cousins stripping naked and having sex? He doesn't sin? He's bloodwashed? I think his wife had the ooziness on their first night because she probably realize the mistake she made. This type of mentality is the cause of a lot of BS in the world today. Sad that people could be so far left-field. I got a migraine reading this #$%. WoWWW!!!
A good sex is not the answer to everything, as humans we have to learn to respect each other, disputes are solved by each person looking at themselves and saying what could I have done differently in any given situation, how could i have responded in a better way, what can I do to change "me". That is how we handle dispute we work at being better people, anybody can have good sex. Sex is not the answer, look around in the world, so how many persons are being destroyed because of improper use of sexual expression.
I am a christian, i am not brain washed, i dont have false hope. I have a living hope and I know what I believe is the "absolute" truth. That is my conviction and I am sticking to that till the day I die. I said that to say we are really in the end times and we really need to seek God for ourselves many false and half truths are being introduced everyday.
This remedy is very good for level-headed and stable people......
This is opening a can of worms
Anybody can be a Pastor these days? What a crock of horse #$%^!!!
Pastor Duncan was next asked, “Do you sin?” His first reply might have seemed evasive to some when he said, “I do make mistakes… but I’m a Christian, I’m a child of God… I’m blood-washed.” Prodded further for a direct answer, pastor Duncan said, “Let me be blunt with you sir, I don’t practise sin.”
50yrs old with no kids but intentions of having 6?? And people put on their Sunday Best (pun intended) to go listen to this level of dumb-$%%^&????? WHAAAAAAAAAAAAT??????????????????????? Blood washed?? **FACEPALM**
What is the deference between Christ like Christian and Christian? I need to know.
The level of prejudices..truly amazing!
What a fool!
If I were his wife I would feel SHAME! SHAME! SHAME! then again I would have spotted that this fool was a fool the moment he came sniffing around me for a relationship! Solving disputes with SEX you say? so if your husband abuse you, you must go and have sex? if both of you have a problem instead of sitting down and solving it you must have sex? and when the sex is over the problem remains? Your head good {Pastor}? You are 50 years, maybe your wife is a bit younger than you and you still loving for six (6) children? at this age? at this time when the world is in such chaos? You got to be kidding! Just reading this story makes me want to puke! Not everybody who say they are a Pastor is a true man of God.
There are ministers and there are 'ministers'. It is now left up to all of us to 'examine the horns' of those professing to be what they obviously are not. We need to pay more attention to their preachings and teachings, or we may very well be lead astray. This article was worse than an x-rated movie.
Another warning sign that the devil is out on a rampage. Beware!!
Beware of false prophets which come to you in sheep's clothing but inwardly they are ravening wolves.
Romans 16: v 17-18
Now I beseech you, brethren, mark them which cause divisions and offences contrary to the doctrine which ye have learned; and avoid them. For they that are such serve not our Lord Jesus Christ, but their own belly; and by good words and fair speeches deceive the hearts of the simple.