Illegitimate children can break up homes - Hon. Delores Christopher
She was today March 27, 2014 taking part in the debate on the Status of Children Bill during the Fifth Sitting of the Third Session of the Second House of Assembly.
“The whole problem why we have this Bill here today is because men run away from their responsibilities,” she said. “It goes both ways…they don’t want to take care of the children on the outside and a lot of times they don’t want to take care of the children on the inside either,” she said. “Men are shirking their responsibilities; some men…a good portion of men,” she stressed.
She suggested asking men to bring home an outside child, despite the difficulties that may arise from this.
“I want to make something very clear as I stand here today, and it is to say this is not a Bill that concerns us based on which side of the aisle you’re on. It is a Bill where you have to see for yourself, and search your own conscience and I believe that that is accepted to all of us,” she said.
“This is a Bill that affects all of us…personally. If it is not you it is your brother, your sister, your aunt or some family member. It is throughout our community,” she said.
The member called on the House to also focus on the needs of the children in marriages who might be neglected because of other children. “There is a class of children that is not being mentioned and I feel obligated to speak up on behalf of those children…children who are deemed to be in wedlock,” she said.
“In our communities we have many examples we could refer,” she said, referring to issues affecting children in wedlock. “As a woman, a mother and somebody who understands this, I would like to offer my views…and what I think should be included in this Bill,” she said.
“The Bill makes reference to the rights of the child, and I have other bones of contention to talk about rights of children that are not being addressed,” she said. “I wish that somewhere in the Bill there might have been a section to emphasise the rights of children that are born in wedlock because ever so often Madam Speaker the ‘lock’ is taken off of the ‘wed’,” she said.
“Madam Speaker I don’t know if we believe that we could right the wrongs, but there are wrongs on both sides,” she said.
“I am making a voice for those children born in wedlock,” she said. “This Bill speaks about the equal status of the children; and I agree that those things should be corrected…the ugly words should disappear. But I have a serious question when a disruption is caused in a home, in a marriage. And the children inside the home…are also made to suffer,” she said. “[They are] suffering because many times Madam Speaker when they are looking for their daddy he is nowhere to be found,” she stressed.
56 Responses to “Illegitimate children can break up homes - Hon. Delores Christopher”
I do agree that too many man shirk their responsibilities but its not only them
I would say this much though, that the relationship between the husband and the wife sometimes cause these things to happen, for I have heard of instances where as soon as the wife gets the ring, husband can't touch her, she doesn't cook, wash his clothes, the whole nine yards. As a woman I would say this is wrong, wrong, WRONG! If the man is not treated as the 'Head' and shown the affection, he is going to go and look for 'greener pastures' where he can feel appreciated. (Please note that I am not advocating this walk out, but I can tell you it's nothing worse than being unhappy and depressed in a relationship).
So women & men, I implore you, stand by your man/woman, make sure that your house is a Haven of love, joy, laughter, and togetherness, and then when you have done your best, let God do the rest. Peace and Love!
Delores good in her head????????????????
You better think before talking nonsense.
A child born to parents who are unmarried is SOMEONE'S CHILD and should have any rights of their parentage.
If a man has 3 acres of land prior to getting married and then has two children with his wife then has another as a result of an affair why should the outside child be denied an acre of land? And my opinion is if he and his wife bought land for their children, he should buy a piece for the outside child/ren or help the mother(s)
It's high time we start thinking about the children inside for a while. Thanks Deloris
Is this satisfactory, certainly not. This is the only haunting aspect of this Status of Children's Bill.
Men need to make a will if they have assets to distribute to avoid all the possibilities that this new Bill will create. Poor woman, sah!!